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Body Language Reveals Wealth

2009-02-10T17:21:00.000-08:00

Body Language Reveals Wealth

A flashy handbag or Armani suit can signal a person's wealth, but so can their body language, according to a new study. People of higher socioeconomic status are more rude when conversing with others.

Psychologists Michael Kraus and Dacher Keltner of the University of California, Berkeley, videotaped pairs of undergraduate students who were strangers to one another, during one-on-one interviews. In total, 100 undergraduate students participated.

The researchers then looked for certain gestures that indicate level of interest in the other person during one-minute slices of each conversation.

They found that students whose parents were from higher socioeconomic status (SES) backgrounds engaged in more of what he called "impolite" behaviors, such as grooming, doodling and fidgeting. Lower SES students showed more "I'm interested" gestures, including laughter and raising of the eyebrows

The higher SES students fidgeted with nearby objects for an average of two seconds, while those from lower SES backgrounds almost never fidgeted during the 60-second clips. Upper SES students also groomed themselves for short stints while lower SES students didn't. Rather, the lower SES students nodded their heads, laughed and raised their eyebrows an average of one to two seconds more than their upper SES counterparts.

"We're talking seconds here, but that is a pretty big difference when you consider that we coded one minute of interaction time," Kraus told LiveScience. "So how many times a day are you nodding if you're lower socioeconomic status?"

It comes down to our animalistic tendencies, Kraus explained. Like a peacock's tail, the seemingly snooty gestures of higher SES students indicates modern society's version of "I'm fit," and "I don't need you."

"In the animal world, conflict arises when you're battling for status. So it's adaptive for us to avoid those conflicts and tell us we know 'I'm higher status than you, so don't bother having a conflict with me,'" Kraus figures.

Lower SES individuals can't afford to brush off others. "Lower SES people have fewer resources, and by definition should be more dependent on others," Kraus said.

The research is detailed in the January issue of the journal Psychological Science.

Source: LiveScience.com

My Internet Girlfriend

2009-02-09T22:00:00.001-08:00

My Internet Girlfriend.

Dance Floor #Close Field Report

2009-01-27T21:46:00.000-08:00

Arrive at Park Bar to meet up with fellow sargers, including Jack and Lin. Talked with them until the dance floor opened up. Open HBCaroline in a 3 set with "what did that guy say to you?". It immediately hooks. A1-A2 in matter of seconds. I put on the breaks and ignore her to befriend the male CB and he invites me over to their friends. After introductions, I isolate HBCaroline by telling her she needs to come meet my friends. I see Brendan first and I introduce her. After that I pick a comfort location at the back of the bar and then I decided to make her qualify like crazy with soundbite questions like "what makes me drawn to you? I mean beauty is very common. You see it everywhere just look around. You have to rationalize this for me" Then fluff about school (NYU), work (Dental Hygenist), and friends (How we met them). I work up the kino escalation ladder. Her friends keep texting her. At this point I am sitting on top of the couch as she is leaning hard into me. I notice a ton of proximity. I tell her to close her eyes and then I go in for the kiss with no respect to the 90-10 rule. I tell her we better slow down. The male CB comes back for her and he sees me caressing her face and pulling her hair. She tells me how annoyed she is at her male CB friend. I ask her if she wants to get a drink downstairs. She says no. I was shocked as I thought she would've gone for it. I guess I messed up with the way I worded it. I then ask her if she wanted a drink up here. She says yes, and we go to the bar. She buys me a shot. I #close her. We share a petrone shot. Were both very intoxicated at this point. Male CB comes back again, this time with another dude. He asks me to buy a shot for me and him and hands me $20. I comply and as soon as I turn my back, they whisk her away from me. LOL. I don't chase. I proceed to buy the shots. I go back to give him his shot and ask him where she went. He said she went home. I said eff it and open a 4 set. It hooks. I dance with them and they ask me to be in a couple of pictures with them. But of course, I lose the set after gaming them in a drunken state. I rounded the night off by opening another 4 set. I open the UG and unsuccessfully tried to use Eric as my wingman to occupy the UG. He fails at this miserably and I eject.

Old Field Report

2009-01-25T19:49:00.000-08:00

Haven't started or wrote in your pickup journal yet? Start one now!

Late March 2008:

We (Jack Lin and I) started at Fontana's. I opened a couple of sets with situational openers and of course they hook because we were at a Meetup event. I #close UGRaven but I messed up the "Yes" ladder in the process. Then we ate a Vietnamese restaurant. $7 for dinner. Then we took the train to West 4th street and met up with Brendan and two other guys. I open an Asian girl but couldn't get her past A2. Then Sean shows up and I introduce him to her and eject. Brendan calls me over and lectures me about wingman rules. He basically thought that Sean stole my target, but I said I ejected because I felt there wasn't any attraction.

Jack, Lin and I head to another bar. We go to Wicked Willies and I open HBMarleen with "would you read your boyfriend's email?" she says "yes... if I had one." Then I knew it was on. Her friend even came and interrupted her, and she basically told her to go away. LOL That helped my confidence a lot. It felt good. I got past A3 with her in a matter of 2 minutes. I made her qualify to me 3x before #closing. I asked if she could sing, if she was Egyptian and if she smoked hookah. She tells me she can't sing, that she is half black/half puerto rican, and she tells me her favorite hookah flavor. I make fun of her annoying voice but told her that she was cute. She loved it. She mentions a hookah party she's planning to go to. I ask what day. She tells me on Saturday. I tell her I might be able to go. How can I contact you? She gives me her phone to punch my number in but I make her type it in for me instead (to make it look like she's picking me up haha) I talk to her some more but I said i gotta go look for my friends but that I might be back and that maybe we'll have a drink and ejected.

I tried opening sets on the street to no avail as we were walking to the subway. Moving sets are hard and not a place to run solid game anyways.

Another Field Report

2009-01-25T19:44:00.000-08:00

Here's another field report I wrote when I first started writing in my pickup journal. I encourage you to write in yours too. It doesn't have to be long. Some days you won't feel like writing at all and that's fine. Just keep it up to date as often as possible. If you have a pickup blog you can link your blog to mine.

Late March 2008:

Met up with Jack and Lin for day game at the MoMa. Kung, Jay, and Irwin later joined us.

I had approach anxiety as usual that was cured by the time I had a few drinks in me. I opened a seated two set, HBNicole and HBConor ( "hey real quick, what do you think about interracial marriages?) , dhv story ("ex indian girlfriend that got hit on at least 5x every time we went out to a bar.") transitioned( "best friends test") , fluffed (talked about relationships, and work), and #closed HBConor. Fluffed some more (Talked about seeing my rapper friend perform the night before) HBNicole said I talked too much. HBConor asked if I wanted to have a cigrarette with her. I said I'm sorry I don't smoke and ejected.

Rolled up to the second bar and opened several hired guns including Hired Gun Veronica before opening HBMarisol with "Hey do you know what an X rated shot?" She says no and I go I can show you what it is. She asks does it involve a bj and I say it requires you being single though. haha Then back and forth bantering with her. She said yes and it was on. I isolated her to the back of the bar and pecked at her. She wasn't receptive. I forgot about the 90-10 rule where you are supposed to move in 90% of the way and stop like an inch away from her mouth to let her go the last 10% of the way. #closed her before leaving the bar.

Online Sarging Journal

2009-01-25T19:40:00.000-08:00

Well guys, I encourage all aspiring pickup artists to keep an online sarging journal for pickup. You will be amazed at your rate of progress. You can get a free blog here at blogger.com and set it to private. I wrote mine in my notebook until I switched to MS word. If you want to know how I started you can my journal from last year when I started keeping an online sarging/pickup journal.

March 2008:

Day 1, Monday: Opened sets on the subway platform with "would you ever read your boyfriends email." Was too chicken to transition to routines in front of everybody. Also forgot to be cocky/funny. Have to remember to be cocky/funny. Have to remember to plow. Bad Maleko, Bad!

Day 2, Tuesday: Opened, transitioned, and email closed asian college girl. She would not give me her #. Used situational opener on subway platform, fluffed, and did an astrology routine on her on bus.

N/A, Wednesday: Got fined $75 by cop for moving in between subway cars. Frickin A! Was too angry to open any sets afterwards. Still have approach anxiety, but remembered to be cocky/funny. Weird, when I remember to be cocky/funny I get massive AA.

Off Day, Thursday: Worked on inner game all day. Watched 5 plus hours of "The Jeffy Show". At work as of this writing and will probably take night off. Currently, downloading "Mind of Mystery"

Day 3, Friday: Experienced AA earlier in the evening but overcame it to open sets at Park Bar with "would you ever read your boyfriends email" but was unable to transition into routines. Opened, fluffed, and # closed lone asian girl. Used situational opener and fluffed about travel.
Day 4, Saturday: Field tested my own opener on 2 set with "hey quick question, how do you guys know each other, you're boyfriend and girlfriend right? (Don't wait for an answer) Cool, (turn to girl) let's say you're single and you happen to meet a nice guy here. You get along very well. He's funny, charming, and even good looking but he got here on his bycycle. At the end of the night would you ride home with him on his bike?" She of course says yes, and I tell the "boyfriend" she's a keeper. Then I say turn my back on them and go about my business talking to my friend Jack. A minute later I feel her hands on the back of my head and she's playing with my hair. I notice it but I don't acknowledge it because I'm such a chode Then she rubs my back, and I still ignored it not believing that she had at least a little bit of attraction for me. Soo retarded of me. Was it attraction or am I being delusional?

Off Day, Sunday: Still downloading Mind of Mystery. It's taking forever.

Pickup Lifestyle

2009-01-20T23:43:00.000-08:00

Hey fellow pickup artists! I was on the phone talking with a friend today and we had a conversation about money. We both agreed that having a lot money is not a big deal for us. With an average job and a skillset of a pickup artist we can live out the lives we want. We realize we don't need to be a lawyer, a doctor, or an engineer in order to make a lot of money and marry hot women. That's the beauty of being able to pickup women. You can pickup women any time you want. You can be broke like me and still pickup a ton of chicks. You can be a paralegal and still pickup hotter women than some of these big shot CEOs. That's why I love the pickup community. Now that I think about it, I don't even want a well paying job anymore. I just want to live out a fun and interesting life with beautiful women and hope to someday get married with a trophy wife. Man I you would not believe how I've changed. Only a couple of years ago all I did was work, work, work. I wanted to become a billionaire. And for what? So that I could have all this money to burn and fake people around me. Now, I'm much more mature and much more realistic. I'd be fully content with just an average job that paid the bills. I don't need a career or a well paying job to define me. I'm a Pickup Artist to the max. The pickup lifestyley is the one I want to live.

Pickup for Life

2009-01-19T19:11:00.000-08:00

So ever since I was inspired by Real Social Dynamics, especially Tyler and Jeffy, to pickup women 7 nights a week, I've been out of a job for almost two months. I haven't done many forms of pickup or sarging as many of you who follow this blog already know. Picking up women is hard enough without a job because you worry about bills and money when you should be concentrating on pickup and game.

For those of you in the pickup community who have been laid off or are thinking of quitting your job, let me be your example. I'm telling you that it's extremely hard to do anything let alone go out there and pickup women when you're out of a job. It's hard to wake up, and get out of the house because no one is making you. You lose discipline and it effects picking up women and your game.

I know now that I shouldn't have quit my job to pickup women 7 nights a week. I could've continued to sarge with a job, but I didn't think it through. I don't want the same thing to happen to any of you guys. Pickup is hard enough, why make it even harder?

So right now I am looking for ways to make money online. None of that has worked for me thus far. I've written 38 posts in this pickup blog and I have yet to earn more than $1 a day on this "pickup blog." I have not become as independent as I'd like to be and that is effecting me a ton.

Anyways, what keeps me going is the pickup artists in this community. Master Pickup Artists or if you prefer Commercial Pickup Artists like Mystery (Erik), Matador (Stan?), Tyler Durden (Owen), Style (Neil), and the Asian Playboy (JT) keep me inspired to take my knowledge of the Pickup Arts and The Game to a higher level. There's no quitting Pickup or The Game here on my part because pickup is here to stay.

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What is Matador's Real Name?

2009-01-18T22:46:00.000-08:00

What is Matador from VH1 The Pickup Artist 1 and The Pickup Artist 2's real name? According to The Asian Playboy who used to sarge with Matador, his real name is STAN. Can you believe it? What are your thoughts?

To me it doesn't matter. I think Stan sounds better than Stanley, but then again other people have their opinions. I am just stating this because a lot of people don't know what Matador's real name is and since I happened to have attended the Asian Playboy's seminar in New York City this past week, I just thought I'd share that information with you guys. So yeah, Matador's real name is Stan. Enjoy!

Kino

2009-01-17T20:19:00.000-08:00

I hate online dating. I can't believe how much it sucks. Sure I can banter with girl and it can be fun for a while. However, in the end all that bantering is pointless because you can't follow up with kino. I think being able to escalate by using kino is a key component to creating attraction. Kinoing a girl is an art form but it doesnt have to be rocket science. That's what I miss about sarging in the field. I have to go look for a job. I sent in two applications today to work at a library. Hopefully they give me a call for an interview on Monday.

When I Want to Quit Pickup I Create Goals to Transform Myself into a Better Pickup Artist

2009-01-16T15:01:00.000-08:00

When I woke up this morning I felt like quitting pickup forever. I never did take it seriously because I've always had this awful feeling inside me every now and then. It just shows up the next morning after a night like yesterday. Whenever I meet someone who makes a living teaching pickup and who found out about the pickup community later than I did I start to question my commitment and goals. I start feeling doubts about myself and I think about quitting pickup.

Right now, I'm feeling better of course. I wrote down a list of pickup and sarging goals that I want to obtain in the near future. I created these goals with the intention of working on them right away. And these are:

1) To go out sarging every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night despite being broke and unemployed (by the way thanks to the guys who are clicking on my amazon links and buying books. Hope those books enlighten you.)

2) To identify and work on sticking points when out in the field sarging!
Right now I would say the majority of my problems lie in approach anxiety. I am able to do everything else including plowing and staying in set. My two major sticking points according to the Mystery Method are in the Attraction and Seduction phases. Comfort is like my best friend.

3) To become a better wingman by not flaking every time it's cold or snowing outside.

4) To get more involved with the pickup community by reading and commenting on at least 5 field reports per day.

5) Post a detailed post about pickup here every single day. I'm talking about opening up MS Word and just typing away until I reach the 500 word count.

6) Identify things that are non pickup related that I would enjoy doing in the company of women.

These things are reading poetry, learning a foreign language, and taking a creative writing class. I am also thinking about taking up an interest in art and politics. Also, I want to go to the museums, watch more movies, and attend concerts. I also want to play in a band. It’s a good start, but I have way too many interests listed. I have a lot of ideas like these that I want to try but I prevent myself from doing it because I think I don’t have the money to support all of this. That stops today. I will go out a get a part time job if I have to.

7) Read up on the old seduction posts by the pickup gurus or instructors of today and make a sizable post contribution on the alt.seduction.fast forum.

8) Read magazines from GQ, Details, and other Men’s magazine to get a general idea about current fashion.

9) Identify the type of women that I like and what type of man that they like and how they dress.

10) Create an avatar for myself and make an effort to buy at least one good article of clothing every month.

So there you have it. I have written over 500 words. Now I have to go out sarging in this single digit degree weather and put approach anxiety in the back of my mind and just open. Wish me luck.

The Asian Playboy

2009-01-15T22:24:00.001-08:00

JT aka The Asian Playboy was in town today. I went to his "lecture" in midtown today. He gave an okay presentation. Most of the guys who went to see him were new community guys. I was obviously not. He discussed topics I had already heard before so I was just interested in meeting the guy in person. After all this guy winged with Matador, Mystery, and all the top pickup artists in the pickup community. His company, ABC's of Attraction seems to cater to asian AFCs or rAFCs, but there were white middle aged men who happened to be the majority in attendance asking him questions about how to game Asian women. I think that could be a new and profitable niche for the pickup community. Teach white men how to pickup Asian women. Anyways, I met a few guys from the community. I realize I put in more time to meet commercial pickup artists and community guys than meeting more women. I think that has to stop. I can't soak up any more pickup knowledge. I am already knowledgeable. Now I just have to start picking up women.

Sarging

2009-01-14T22:56:00.000-08:00

I haven't sarged in a while because of the cold weather. Looking to sarge next week with a couple of guys from our New York City sarging group. I really hope Epic and Tom are out there with us in the trenches next week for some moral support. Lately, I've been having money problems because I'm still unemployed. It seems like I am the only one too. I feel guilty about going out and thinking twice about tipping the bartender. I still overtip but just to even think about undertipping them is unlike me. I have to get this money problem solved. I try though to put up Amazon links on here so that I can at least get commission. So far people have been nice to click and buy. I want to thank them for at least helping me average $5 a day. It's something.

Time to Sarge

2009-01-13T22:27:00.000-08:00

For all you lazy guys out there. The number 1 key to "picking up" women is to go out. Yes, get out of the house. Shutdown the computer and go out to your local bar, club, library, supermarket, whatever. Just do it.

Drunk

2009-01-12T23:54:00.000-08:00

It's 255 am and I just got home. I am drunk. I unsuccessfully tried to help my friend pickup tonight. Women don't understand how hard it is to be a guy. I feel sorry for my friend. He doesn't deserve it. He tries so hard every time he goes out. They don't understand how hard rejection is.

How To Fall In Love

2009-01-11T22:22:00.000-08:00

Yeah, right you didn't think I was going to write about how to fall in love were you? In my opinion Love is something that we create in our own minds and unjustifiably attach those good feelings on to another person. We make them into this wonderful perfect human being that we can't imagine living without even when they're not. I don't mean to sound cold or unromantic, but that's what Love really boils down to. It's not healthy when either you or the girl act that way. Then it becomes neediness and as we all know neediness is unattractive both to the girl and to you. It doesn't make any sense to fall in love when you can just appreciate each others company. That's really how relationships you work. It should be like a plant. You don't want to overfeed or underfeed it. You want to give it the amount of light and water each day then you go about doing your business.

10 Year High School Reunion

2009-01-11T00:16:00.000-08:00

My 10 year high school reunion is this year. I can't believe it's been a decade since I graduated from High School. If I decide to attend this year they wouldn't even recognize me. I wonder if Tyler Durden or Mystery attended their 10 year high school reunions?

Guest Pickup Blog Writers

2009-01-09T21:10:00.001-08:00

I was thinking about letting other pickup artists or someone in the pickup community write a pickup and seduction column on my pickup blog. I talked with one of my close friends who sarges with me on a regular basis. He's relatively new to the game and the pickup community. I told him that if he was interested he could post up his field reports here on my pickup blog. This pickup blog is starting to get more visitors by the week and if he writes here that could motivate him to go out a sarge with more consistency. Anyways, we'll see. If any of you guys in the pickup community would like to post on this pickup blog, be sure to comment below.

The Blueprint Decoded DVD

2009-01-08T17:35:00.000-08:00

The Blueprint Decoded DVD is everywhere! I was on YouTube today and ended watching a 10 minute clip of The Blueprint even though I've watched all of it twice already. Tyler is an amazing speaker who mesmerizes audiences and blows away other pickup artists with his expert knowledge of pickup and seduction which borderlines on genius. Tyler's not just some unknown dude who was on Keys To The VIP and got a number close. I wish all recovering average frustrated chumps could have the opportunity to watch The Blueprint Decoded. It should be taught to schoolboys and be required academic reading. Since this is not the case, I have been recommending the Blueprint Decoded to all of my friends. They are all really excited and have been asking for my copy of it. There's actually a waitlist. I'm happy to share it with them. The Blueprint Decoded should be free, but I understand it's a business, so sharing my copy with my friends is the least that I could do. For all of you online readers, I encourage you guys to buy The Blueprint Decoded on Real Social Dynamics web site.

School of Seduction

2009-01-07T22:03:00.000-08:00

If I had a teenage son and he asked for my dating advice I'd give it to him. I doubt that he would need it because I would have already given him more than enough dating advice. Also, I'd find a hard time believing that he could 'learn" pickup from me. He'd be better off just going out and sarging with his friends. My dad was a big pimp. At age 54, he's still a big pimp. Believe me I tried imitating my Dad when I was in my early teens and I still ended up an "Average Frustrated Chump."

Mystery Wants To Meet Me

2009-01-06T22:23:00.000-08:00

So I got this email from Blitz today and it said Mystery wants to meet me. Oh really? Here's the link that I got http://www.varevelation.com/meetmystery/index.html.

I haven't signed up for Meet Mystery's event yet, but if it's free like it says "Meet Mystery Absolutely Free", then I'm totally there. I've never met what many call the "world's best pickup artist" so I just might give it a shot.

If you're interested heck you should sign up. And if you're going to be in the New York area when Mystery stops by, be sure to let me know. We can hang out and sarge afterward.

Matador: The Pickup Artist

2009-01-05T21:33:00.000-08:00

I'll always remember the time I met Matador from VH1's The Pickup Artist show. I was at a New York City "lair" meeting for pickup artists. I had never heard of Matador. All I wanted was to take a photo of the pickup artist Mystery. After all Mystery was scheduled to speak.

I was anxiously waiting outside Ripley Grier studio in midtown Manhattan when this tall bulky dark skinned guy asked me where the meeting was. I had no idea it was Matador. I pointed to my right. He politely thanked me and walked in that direction and he was followed by a drop dead gorgeous blond.

Matador had this presence about him from the start. He looked very arrogant with his long hair, vest and the backwards kangaroo hat. I can see how most guys would be threatened by him. He had the look of a master pickup artist. Yet he was polite and very likable. I knew right then that he was going to be a reality show star.

Matador if you're reading this man, I am glad I got to meet you that summer in 2007. I learned from a top pickup artist. I learned what type of lifestyle I wanted from you. And even though I forgot most of the speech, your presence there alone made it worth the time.

To this day every time I put on an accessory I think back on that day when you told us something like accessories have no value but they create an identity of who we and that's really why we wear them. Without that advice I would still be a t-shirt and jeans guy.

Anyways, good stuff Matador. Hope your success continues. By the way I think the drop dead gorgeous blond that came with Matador that day is a brunette in this video. Have a look. She's so hot.

Places To Meet Women

2009-01-04T17:59:00.000-08:00

The other night me and my buddies talked about how beneficial it would be to take on hobbies of hot women or women that we consider ideal so that we could find more things to talk about and have more in common with them. We talked for almost three hours on this so it was pretty in depth. Now I wanted to share a bit of that conversation with my readers and get into that topic a little a bit deeper.

Our first question was a very broad one - Where are all the hot women? Like where do they hangout besides the obvious locations like the malls and night clubs? Obviously, women love to shop and dance and are very social beings. Only problem is there not as receptive in those places and they have their guards up due to being hit on by drunk guys.

If you're clueless like me you should look through a few dating profiles you will get a basic idea of what activities hot women enjoy. List a few that you might enjoy too.

Now I will take about 10 minutes to go through some online dating profiles at sites like Match.com and Chemistry.com to find out which activities I would enjoy that hot women listed as their hobbies. Here are a few examples.

(15 minutes later)

Alright it wasn't as easy. They listed things as opera, piano, and painting. Maybe I'm just not as talented or dedicated. Sorry! However, I think I would enjoy learning about art history, how to cook, and how to play the guitar.

The point is to pick a hobby, or pick several hobbies actually and go out and do stuff with hot women.

Why do Hot Women Date Ugly Men?

2009-01-03T21:07:00.001-08:00

I see hot women with ugly guys everywhere. I actually know a hot girl who's currently dating an ugly guy. She has even complained about how ugly he is to me. Eventually, I met him and he was exactly as she described.

So of course the question is what do these hot women see in these ugly guys? Shoot they must be rich or something right. Wrong. I've seen broke and ugly guys which is a brutal combination date hot women that are successful and have a lot going for themselves. Looks or Money don't mean anything to these women. It boggles my mind.

If you're looking for an answer to this mystery I am sorry I have don't currently have any. If you have any theories please do comment and share them with us. Please enlighten us as to why hot and successful women date broke and ugly guys.

I am hoping to meet someone like that online but then again I'm not broke and I'm not ugly. Could that be a reason why?

What is a Natural?

2009-01-02T22:33:00.000-08:00

James Bond is an alpha male. He has all the qualities of an alpha male - looks, brains, physique, charm, and sex appeal. He's what we would call a natural in the pickup community.

Now can you imagine James Bond doing online dating? Hell no!

But you know what? Some of the smoothest players are doing online dating. We think it's just a bunch of guys with no game and we're probably correct 99% of the time.

The one percent is what I suspect is among the true Casanovas of our time. In online dating there's no kinoing, no cavemanning, only words. The greatest seducers in history have one thing in common - they are all very articulate. They have a way with words.

Online dating focuses on what you say, not what you do. In real life, we know attraction can be created just by body language. However, online dating we need to communicate. We need to create fun and fantasy through our words.

So who are these elite players and Casanovas? They're naturals and yes we have a lot to learn from them. The next time you talk to a girl ask her if she's ever tried online dating and then ask about the guys she talks to online.

You will be amazed and shocked by how many naturals there are in the world of online dating. These guys do online dating because they are promiscous. They are secretive and they know exactly what they're doing. They spend all their time thinking about how to get another woman into bed.

They're not pickup artists. Pickup artists aren't as good. They are natural seducers. Couple in marriages need to watch out for these types of people.

The next time you try online dating think of how to translate their success and turn it into yours.

Just think about it, even imagine it, and your game will improve.

Dating Blog

2009-01-01T20:35:00.000-08:00

After last night I realized that I can't stand loud venues. It's true night clubs have a lot of hot women to practice game on and on the dance floor a nice bumping and grinding action but those are the only two upsides at least for me. Then there are also drunk people, obnoxious people, fights, and the fact that I come home half deaf. It surely cant be a good thing. So in 2009, loud venues and night game are out.

It will be nice to meet sober women instead of drunk ones. It will be nice to show her my real side instead of having to amp up my game. I'm also looking to settle down in 2009. So in a sense, you can basically say that I'm no longer doing "pickup" anymore. I'm still going to call my blog a pickup blog so that I can rank high on search engines. I want to show guys that it's good to meet women during the day. I'd call it my dating blog but that would be lame and everyone will laugh at me.

No more trying to be a "player, player yo" guy and doing other pickup artist type of activities like threesomes, multiple long term relationships, and wham, bam, thank you ma'am's. It's all about working on myself and working toward a solid steady relationship. What a novel concept right?

As I'm writing this and realizing how dumb it would be to call my blog a pickup blog, I've changed my mind about calling my blog a pickup blog. This isn't pickup blog anymore. It's my dating blog. So this is my first post in 2009 and it's a dating blog post. And that's what exactly I'm going to call it. Deal.

Also I'd like to hear what some of your New Year's Resolutions are.

Happy New Year!

2009-01-01T01:09:00.000-08:00

Just got back from the City. It was freezing. Wasn't it like 64 degrees last week in New York?

As expected I did not hook up with anyone so I wasn't too disappointed. I did see a lot of couples in streets. I also saw some pretty hot girls who partied by themselves. One attractive girl actually fell asleep in the nightclub where I was at. It sucks to be single around this time of year, I guess more so for women than men.

My New Year's resolution is to hangout with at least one girl every week. I need to have more women coming in and out of my life. I need to put active thought into this stuff. I also want to sarge with other recovering average frustrated chumps. I'm sick and tired of sarging with pickup artists. They don't need anyone's help. I want to help AFC's get a girlfriend this year.

So yeah that's my goal. Let me make a toast. Here's to eliminating AFC habits and getting laid in 2009! Cuz it's about time!

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How To Cure Oneitis

2008-12-30T20:59:00.000-08:00

I don't plan to actively sarge tomorrow since it's New Year's Eve. Besides, 2008 was a crappy year in terms of pickup. I should just finish out the year like I started - Just another single dude. Sure, I was seeing 5 or 6 girls at the beginning of the year, but I had much bigger plans which never materialized.

I had plans of hooking up with my one-itis at work but what happened was we grew further apart because I took a really long international vacation. By the time I came back she was with her ex again. I am not disappointed. Just feeling a little nostalgic about what little we had between us, but you don't want to hear about it.

Instead, I am going to offer up a solution when it comes to dealing with oneitis. And that's simply FTOW / GFTOW. It means Find Ten Other Women / Go Find Ten Other Women. You can look up the definition here at http://www.fastseduction.com/acronyms.shtml

The only problem with it is finding 10 other women and replacing them with your Oneitis or even your "Cherish" aka girlfriend if you're relationship is going sour.

Saying the word "Cherish" just made me laugh. I wonder who came up with that term. I think it was Tim of Real Social Dynamics. That guy is totally awesome. Check out Tim's Real Social Dynamics: Flawless Natural Seminar on DVD. Sorry that was a shameless plug. If you're not going to buy, at least read what it's about. RSD really changed my life for the better but that's for another post.

Anyways, Happy New Year guys. Stay safe and have fun ringing in 2009!

Weight Loss Plan

2008-12-29T21:14:00.000-08:00

I am disgusted by the way I look and by the way I feel. I weighed in at 170lbs and I feel yucky. So I decided today to lose some freaking weight! I will be going on the Atkins Diet and eating nothing but meat and veggies. I will drink milk to get some calcium and consume an apple a day. My target weight is 150lbs. I should be able to achieve that goal in 90 days. Okay 1 day down, 89 to go! Wish me luck please!

Saturday Night

2008-12-28T22:42:00.000-08:00

Went to Union Square Bar with Chris. Met up with Epic, then Lin. There were a few new community guys who I haven't seen before - Geoff, Ray, Craig, and Tim. Everyone of course had varying skill levels, but they were all extremely polite and most importantly not weird.

I got a few drinks in me and before you know it I started opening sets with "Hi, I'm Maleko" I open a girl by "clawing" her into me, and I ask her where's she from? I say I'm from Hawaii. Then I ask her where are her friends? She points over to the front of the bar. I say come here you have to meet my friends. I put my arm around her and say "You're my new girlfriend for the next 15 minutes" and then to everyone "Hey guys, meet my new New York girlfriend." I spun this line to fit my situation but the idea is from Tim's Flawless Natural Method DVD - Real Social Dynamics: Flawless Natural.

We later rolled to a Chelsea club. I went direct with every set for the first 5 minutes with "Hi, I'm Maleko." Eventually, a 3 set introduced us (Me, Chris, Lin) to their friends. They took pictures of us. Chris had then number closed a girl from that 3 set.

We finally decided to work our way into a 2 set on the dance floor. I open direct "Hi, I'm Maleko.", shake hands, then "Meet my best friend, Chris." I spin my target around and then I pull her into me. She says wow you're good. Then we banter. Made her my new 15 minute girlfriend. Eventually ended hooking up with her and hanging out with Chris and her friend for the rest of the night.

Sarging Tonight

2008-12-27T15:13:00.000-08:00

I am going to sarge in the City tonight. Approach anxiety has gotten the best of me the last few times but I sure as heck won't let it get to me tonight because I will approach at least 5 sets with good energy, a fun vibe, and a positive attitude. I won't be outcome dependent and allow bad reactions to get to me. And yes I think it helps to have at least 6 other wingmen to go sarging with, this way we can feed off one another's energy. Someone's bound to ignite that NIMBUS (nimbus is an RSD term). haha I just hope nobody steals any of my sets. haha. If they do I won't be mad because at least that means one of us was successful at sarging tonight.

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Why I Don't Slack Anymore

2008-12-26T13:52:00.000-08:00

Anyone who knows me knows that I was a huge slacker. As recently as a few weeks ago, my mentality was if I already had a hot girlfriend, a million dollars, and everything else was taken care of, I'd spend all my time playing Madden on XBox and watching sports. I wouldn't study pickup or sarge!

That's right you heard me, I wouldn't even study pickup! I wouldn't work on myself or try to learn new things either and that's where I think what my problem was. I wasn't out to improve or work on myself in order to become a more attractive and better man. No, all I wanted was girls, money and fun.

Nowadays I actually want to work on myself. Why? What made me change my mind? Basically, I had imagined seeing myself from another person's perspective and I asked myself if I would want to be around me. I said no and I realized what type person I had become. A selfish, lazy, and unproductive person who refused to grow up.

Now I approach my life in entirely different way, one in which is positive. And basically, I owe it to Real Social Dynamics and especially Tyler and Jeffy who are constantly teaching guys like me to become value givers instead of value takers.

Everyone reading this definitely check out Real Social Dynamics: "The Blueprint Decoded" and "The Jeffy Show." It will change your life for the better I promise.

The "Pickup" Artist

2008-12-25T19:55:00.000-08:00

I think it's better for guys like me to be hated as a player or womanizer than to be ignored as a chode with no respect for himself. I used to be one of those guys who would buy girls drinks and let them use me. I was the type who would have numerous crushes on girls who did not even give me the time of day or notice that I was in the same room as them. There's no way I am reverting back to that.

I would rather take heat as a pickup artist and be called a creep than an average frustrated chump who is holed up inside his house playing video games. I mean, I never set out to have a player's mentality, I justed wanted a loving girlfriend and I still do. I guess what I'm doing is not really pickup at all. To me picking up women is really just another way of saying get out of the house and explore humanity.

On that note, Happy Holidays everyone!

Looks Do Not Matter

2008-12-24T20:19:00.000-08:00

I went out last night with a friend. I tried to get him to approach other girls because I was too scared to do it myself and I could not get him to approach.

I decided to get drunk instead. Wouldn't you know it, I run into a day 2 from the Spring. I don't know how often this happens and I couldn't tell you but I go up to her and say you look familiar cause she was and she responds with "yeah, right" and walks away.

Most guys would give this girl a 6. I give her a 7 and she acts like she's a 9. I know I've put on a few extra pounds and cut off all my hair but in my mind I was thinking she's not even that hot to walk away from me like that. I completely suffered from that outright, total rejection. If it was any other girl I wouldve been okay with it but coming from a DAY 2 that really got to me. Something inside me went "Maleko, you need to step up your game and work on getting back into shape."

This morning I listened to Tyler Durden, the pickup guru of mPUAs and founder of RSD, in the Blueprint, and he said something along the lines of they'll always be a subset of girls who are attracted to you no matter who you are (ie nerd, short, asian.)

Tyler also gave an example of how most girls would get scared of big muscular men like professional bodybuilder Jay Cutler but is sure that Jay lives in a lifestyle of sexual abundance because of the spotlight and fame and the subset of girls who are attracted to men like him.

What I got from listening to the Blueprint was looks and money don't help when it comes to picking up women. Tyler does a wonderful job and convinces me with rationalizations like the above that I should approach as many women as possible in order to find your subset of girls who are attracted to you.

I guess what I'm trying to say is be happy with who you are and do your approaches! Cause after all, looks really do not matter!

Bootcamps: Yay or Nay?

2008-12-24T01:55:00.000-08:00

My friend and wingman Jack emailed me this New York Post article about Love Systems bootcamp. Thought that you guys might enjoy reading it. I can't believe that people still have $3,000 to throw away on a weekend boot camp especially in this weakass economy. I am all for sarging and pickup but I am so against spending thousands of dollars on a weekend bootcamp. Let's hear your thoughts on this. Do you think $3000 weekend boot camps are a rip off or are they worth it. I say rip off.

Four Christmases

2008-12-22T20:01:00.000-08:00

Everyone go see the movie, especially the first 3 minutes where Vince Vaughn tries to pickup Reese Witherspoon in a bar. LOL

Myspace/Facebook Gaming

2008-12-21T18:57:00.001-08:00

Alright, I'm gonna get bashed for this but whatever. If you want to increase your chance of hot girls, let alone any girls, messaging you back on myspace or facebook, here's what you have to do. It's easy. Grab pictures of random, next door neighbor type girls off the internet, preferably about a 1000 miles away from you and with it just create a fake profile. Then just make it private and once a day log into that fake profile and leave a comment on your myspace. Do this and repeat up for about 10 fake profiles. When an actual girl looks at your profile she'll think you already have hot girls in your life and she'll become more interested in you. If you get caught, just block the troublemaker lol

Direct THEN Qualify

2008-12-21T00:34:00.000-08:00

I got this direct opener off of RSDNATION. I can't remember who said it though (sorry guys). Anyways, he said that we could open with anything even with an AFC like compliment, followed by a set of qualifications. He said his friend field tested it out and got some #'s. I think it sounds almost too easy. I follow the logic, however, because once you qualify the girl a few times, you demonstrate higher value, which generates attraction. The girl is thinking who is this guy screening me? She's not use to that and that's exactly why I think it works. Anyways, I am definitely going to try this out and report back. I haven't gone out as of late. Still working on getting my stuff together.

Indirect Opener

2008-12-21T00:31:00.000-08:00

I may have come up with an amazingly simple solution for my recent attraction problems. This will get us over the initial hump of generating attraction and allow us to go straight into comfort. It requires the use of a wing man.

Okay here goes, OPEN "HEY, you guys look like nice people(FRAME CONTROL-tell them that their nice and they'll act nice :)), really quick ok(FALSE TIME CONSTRAINT), please help me out! Do you guys...know where... (PREGNANT PAUSE-MAINTAIN STRONG EYE CONTACT)...I CAN FIND A (INSERT NOUN-ex: Wedding Planner/Dentist/Barbie Doll)??" >> ANSWER (LONG response, SHORT response, YES/NO answer or no answer lol It doesn't matter!!) >> After they give you a response go into your story ie "The reason i'm asking i promised my 5 year old niece I would buy her a barbie doll..blah blah blah"

Do this for 30 seconds. Then your wing comes in, QUICK 3 second high five ending with the interlocking of arms and a hug and a pat on the back alpha male style and he quickly initiates the chat with the other girl. Within 33 seconds we are both off in comfort.

SIMPLE. Seriously, I was reading one of my older posts where I documented the time when I sarged with Epic and number closed # a hot 6ft columbia grad.

I'm excited to try this out again.

My Real Social Dynamics Post

2008-12-19T12:35:00.000-08:00

Here's what I recently wrote on RSDNation.com. For people who don't know, Tyler and Papa are two made up PUA names, and those guys founded Real Social Dynamics, one of the world's biggest dating coaching companies in the world.

Make A Chode's Wish Come True!

Tyler and Papa will you guys please do a morning talk show or something? At least make an attempt to make it easier for chodes to hear about RSD. Too much B.S is spewing out there and I'm tired of watching self proclaimed "dating experts" on Dr. Phil and listening to their "dating advice" on Sirius radio. For once, it would be refreshing to see Tyler or Jeffy in the media.

Craig PUA

2008-12-17T22:36:00.000-08:00

I totally forgot about him. I watched him in one of David DeAngelo's seminars back in the day. I would definitely recommend that everyone watch some of his stuff on Youtube. He's really good for cocky and funny humor. He's hilarious and he's got game. He went on a show called Elimidate which is a show similar to Blind Date but you go up against two other guys. Needless to say he won the show as the girl picked him over the other guys. I wonder what ever happened to Craig?

"99.9% of massages lead to sex"

2008-12-16T20:21:00.000-08:00

Yes, I believe it's true that "99.9% of massages lead to sex." These words were spoken out of a hot woman's mouth, and not some nerd scientist. You can watch Stylelife's "How To Women" video below. It's only about a minute.

NBA All Star a Pickup Artist?

2008-12-15T20:49:00.000-08:00

It seems like pro basketball player, Kenyon Martin, might be able to flip at least one more preselection switch in women with the lipstick mark tattoo on the right side of his neck.

According to Mystery of VH1's The Pickup Artist 1 and 2 fame, in his book, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, he says in reference to attracting a woman, "Another way to flip her preselection switch is to have a lipstick kiss on your cheek."

Looks like Kenyon "slam dunked" that theory home by tattooing the lipstick kiss on his neck.

Mystery vs. Tyler vs. Style

2008-12-14T12:20:00.000-08:00

30 Day Challenge

2008-12-12T22:15:00.000-08:00

I wanna do a 30 day challenge where I go out and do pickup every night for a month straight. I have no job, might as well right? No really, logically if one goes out every night he is bound to improve his skills with women through increased in field experience. That's 15 weeks worth of in field experience for a guy who only goes out on Friday and Saturday nights. Only problem for me is I have very little money and I feel guilty about not having a job.

So what's the alternative? Basically, I think the same idea could be applied on the internet. I'm talking about getting dates from free social networking sites like Myspace, Facebook, and Hi5. There are also some good paid dating sites like Match.com, eHarmony.com, and AdultFriendFinder, but there are not for unemployed guys like me. Also, another free site to try the challenge on is Craigslist. I can't think of another right off the top of my head. If anyone knows any more please share them.

As soon as I get a job, I'll let you know when I will be doing a 30 Day challenge in real life. hahah For now, it's online dating time :)